Is there such thing as perfect parents?
What would define a perfect parent?
I don't believe there is such a thing. This is not to say that anyone is a failure and hasn't done right by their children. This just means that, to me, in order to be considered perfect, that leaves no room for mistakes.
I am not perfect in my parenting, nor have I ever encountered someone who did not make mistakes along the way. Parenting does not come with an owner's manual or answer keys.
No one knows what is the absolute best for children, because no two children are just alike. I do believe, however, that there are absolutely awesome parents who have done everything they could to do the right thing, and there are those who are more liberal in their parenting methods.
Instead of trying to reach the "perfect parent" status, I think parents should focus on doing what is best for their children - and it starts at home.
Instill values, morals and principles, teach them the difference between right and wrong. Teach them the goodness and riches in making correct decisions, and don't be afraid to let them see the consequences of making bad choices.
Teach them to be kind to others and to never lie, cheat or steal. Show them how to respect others, as well as themselves. Show them the rewards of honesty and the results of not being honest and trustworthy.
Talk to children and listen to them. Hear what they have to say, because to them it's important to be heard. It's important to interact with children on a level in which they can understand.
Teach children how to throw a ball, shoot a basketball, run a relay race, take proper phone messages, help someone with their groceries. Teach them to drive and respect other drivers, and to be aware of them. Teach them the value of a dollar, even if they never need to work. Then again, teach them the value of an honest day's work.
There is so much that goes into parenting, and there may never be given a Mother-of-the-Year Award, but there are many, many rewards that await the parent who accepts the fact that they are not perfect but will continue to do the best they can. Just to know that beautiful smile, that picture hanging on the fridge and those messy breakfasts in bed were done out of love is a much bigger award that doesn't say, "I'm perfect," but it does say, "I'm loved!"
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