For whatever reason, I can only assume they felt helpless and lost. Maybe they figured things would never get better or maybe they thought that, by dying, things would get easier. It doesn’t have to be like that.
Everyone has friends, family and coworkers who are hurting. They have marital problems or custody issues over their children. They may have problems with finances and are being tormented by bill collectors. Maybe they suffer from depression, stress or loneliness. Almost everyone has been there or know someone who is dealing with it.
People shouldn’t turn their backs on those who need them in their darkest hour. Long gone is the time when “we shouldn’t get involved.” Definitely do get involved, reach out a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on.
If, when asking someone if they are OK and the answer is always “I’m fine,” when it is very well known that it is not fine, offer a chance to talk. Be their friend and their confidante. Offer them words of encouragement. Give them some much needed advice. If this doesn’t seem to help, ask a professional on how to approach someone who seems unapproachable.
Hard times are going to happen, bad days will come. There will come a time prayers and uplifting are needed. On the other side of the spectrum, good days are ahead, bad circumstances will not last forever.
I read a quote once that noted suicide is not a way of ending bad things, it’s losing the opportunity to start better things. Those who choose to end their lives gave up before things could get better, before giving themselves a chance to know what it was like to have a brighter day.
Reach out to those in need, let them know they have a friend. Let them know that ending their life is not the way to end their problems. It leaves behind a trail of pain and heartache for those who loved them. Living through tough times teaches the value of the best times.
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